5 Reasons NOT to Send Christmas Cards

I know what you’re thinking…That I’m a complete and utter Grinch. Or, you may quite possibly be giving me an invisible “high-five.” Today, I posted on my personal Facebook page about why I will not be sending Christmas cards this year, and I was shocked at the response. I’m certainly not alone. People seem to feel strongly about it one way or another. For some, sending Christmas cards is pure joy and for others it’s sheer stress. I get it. Part of me is torn, wanting to reciprocate. The other part of me, well…

Reasons Not To Send Christmas Cards

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Here are five reasons NOT to send holiday cards this year:

1. Experience Joy

I’m not necessarily the crafty type who loves taking and editing the perfect holiday photos, then finding the best app or online software such as Shutterfly, searching the gazillion designs, ordering the precious photo cards, then addressing those cards to my 50+ closest family and friends with my best glitter pens. I don’t fall into that camp. At least not right now. And to be totally honest, I’m a tad jealous at those who do.

Ever since I KonMari’d (organizing made easy) my closet, I ask myself if what I’m doing or what I possess brings me joy. Sending holiday cards simply does not qualify as joyful to me. In fact, it really stresses me out these days. Truth be told, I absolutely dread it! Who knows, next year might be different. But this year, for me, is about self-care. In order to say “yes” to self-care/less-stress, I choose joy and say “no” to holiday cards. Who is with me?

2. Say NO to Obligation

How many of us feel obligated to send cards? Lets just get this straight right now. No one, nope, not even you, are legally or morally obligated to send those adorable holiday cards.  Even if Great Aunt Mary is severely disappointed, that’s her problem, not yours! Well, OK…. This is where it becomes complicated, right? Even I feel bad for Great Aunt Mary because she probably isn’t on Facebook. Maybe I would send her one thoughtful card with the kids school pictures slipped in. But that’s it! Seriously though, we all have enough to do in our lives, that if you simply don’t want to send a holiday card, then just don’t. But promise me you won’t feel guilty about it? Then, repeat after me 10 times: “I’m worthy, I’m loved and I’m good enough.”  Because you ARE. Holiday cards or not. ♥

3. Reclaim Your Time

Look, if knitting or adult coloring books is your “thing,” then spend your time doing that instead. Really, it’s OK. Do what you love. Perhaps with all the stress during the holidays you need to take a relaxing bath (or two or three), go to the gym or enjoy a massage. Then, do that instead!

Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying, be completely selfish and only do things for yourself this Christmas. However, you do need to prioritize yourself high on the list for self-care. Take the time for yourself to re-energize. Because when you do what you love, you will experience joy and shine your light on others.

4. Christmas (or insert holiday you celebrate) is Not Your Jam

Maybe this holiday is just not your holiday, for whatever reason. Or, you really LOVE the idea of spreading more love on Valentines Day, like one of my dear friends. Well, then do what you love and send out Valentines Day cards instead! Imagine the fun surprise for friends and family who receive a non-traditional, holiday card out-of-the-blue. With a last name of Irish decent, I had thought of sending St. Patrick’s Holiday cards. But then guess what I realized? That didn’t bring me joy either. So I don’t.  But if another holiday moves you, then go with it. Follow your joy.

5. You Can’t Keep It Simple

Setting boundaries is not always easy, even for ourselves. So if it doesn’t come naturally for you to have a completely organized set of holiday address labels, with accompanied stamps and glitter pens all ready to go, then perhaps this is the year to focus on something else. Just sayin’ because that’s totally me. It always feels like an after-thought which is the exact opposite of what it should be.

If I send something to someone, I really want to be mindful of what I’m doing. So, if it’s easy for you to pull up a thoughtful and cute photo on your phone, add a fitting digital sticker and BAM! Holiday cards are done. Then, yes. Go for it girl! I admire you. Truly.

At the end of the day, do what feels right to YOU.

If sending cards fills you with love and joy, perfect!

If not, that’s OK too.  Who knows, maybe your husband has the beautiful penmanship or is the photo whiz. Perfect! Let them take a stab at it this year.

Just promise me this one thing–That you will take care of yourself during the busy (and often stressful) holiday season.

Does it bring you JOY or PAIN to send Holiday cards? Share your story below.

Peace, Love, Joy!

♥ Jennifer

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19 thoughts on “5 Reasons NOT to Send Christmas Cards

  1. I used to send Christmas cards to everyone and their uncle (and write a personal message to boot). Now, I order them free when I get them on Shutterfly and only send to immediate family, but order a few extra for those surprise cards from friends. It has cut down on my stress a lot.

  2. I use to send tons of christmas cards. One year it was only to ones who sent me one. Now I don’t do it at all and I’m okay with that.

  3. I love to send Christmas cards! One of my favorite things about the holidays is receiving cards and letters from friends and family across the globe that I can’t always connect with on a regular basis. I love to see their adventures for the year, hear about what their families are up to and share our year. I hope sending Christmas cards never goes out of style.

    1. That’s great you love sending them! I’m thankful for those who do as I enjoy receiving them. I think it’s important to do what brings us joy. Here’s to a great 2017!

  4. I’ve been debating sending cards this year so I think this helped me make my decision! Maybe it’ll will help me start 2017 with making good choices for me too!

  5. I am only sending a few special cards this year. Homemade to boot! Not because I feel obligated. Can’t get into the sending-cards-to-everyone-I-ever-met thing. 🙂

  6. I used to be all about the christmas cards (used to send them late, but they’d get there) so that was part of my stress is because I have to think of 1,000 different messages to put into each card. But after a few years of the same people never sending me cards back or even wishing me a merry christmas on the phone or even a text message, I cut them out! So now I have a select few of immediate family and friends that I make cards for but I don’t get too elaborate with them because let’s face it most store bought cards end up in the garbage by the middle of jan!

  7. I’m totally not sending cards! I wanted to save money AND not have the stress of trying to organize photos. I think they’re lovely when other people send them but not my jam!

  8. These are such great points that you make and it’s important for people to remember that it’s not a law that they HAVE to send Christmas cards, lol. I even have a friend who send out Halloween cards instead, it’s so cute to see their whole family in their costumes! I personally love getting other people’s cards, but I totally respect anyone who doesn’t want to send them or doesn’t have the time! 🙂

  9. I really enjoy sending Christmas cards to friends and family. It is one of my traditions that I look forward to each year. I enjoy sending mine out more than receiving, just because I want to remind others that I remember and love them! Plus half of my family lives off, so I do not get to see them often. This is a way we can still be a part of each others Christmas. However, I do agree with your points. If Christmas cards are not your thing, definitely move onto something that is and do not send cards for obligatory reasons.

  10. I totally agree! I am so shocked at how many people still send Christmas cards. It seems like so much work just for them to get thrown away in a couple weeks. My only acception to this is for pics of newborns, etc. I know that once we have a baby, I’m gonna want to send Christmas cards with him/her on it. But other than that, I won’t even bother

    1. I think it’s so funny at how people are truly on one side of the fence or the other on this. I really hadn’t thought much of it before, except that I was feeling guilty, so I sat with that for a while and shared what made sense for me. I’m with you! 🙂

  11. I love sending Christmas cards. While, it’s sometimes a stressful process, it’s something I’ll always do for the simple reason that our friends and family lives 3,000+ miles away. Being that my husband’s military, we don’t have the luxury of spending the holidays with our families (or any holiday for that matter). Our families rarely get updated photos of us and we’re not always the best at staying connected with extended family. So we use our Christmas cards as a way to stay connect with them all. I include updated photos for them so that they can frame them or do what they want with them. I also include a letter as well to each family member and friend, keeping them updated on anything that’s going on here and thanking them for their continued love and support. We’re very close to our families. It might not make ME happy every year to sit down and put all these holiday card packages together, but I know it makes them happy and for that reason, I will always continue to do them.

    1. That’s wonderful that you find joy in this tradition even if it’s not your favorite thing to do! I love that you include a personal letter as well. Nice job!

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